How to do things you love - without feeling guilty about it
It should be simple right? To just do the things that we love without a second thought - but sometimes it really isn’t.
There are so many other parts of life that can get in the way and prevent us from doing what we love as often as we want.
Have you ever heard the saying “if you love what you do you’ll never work a day in your life” - well it’s true. But the tricky part is getting there. Finding what we love to do for work can be a challenge for a lot of us. But once we do figure that out, the next challenge is figuring out how we get there.
Maybe you absolutely love pets and want to become a veterinarian. But to do that you need to go to school, and you need money to be able to go to school, and you need to pass all of your classes so you can be qualified to be a veterinarian. See where I’m going with this? It can be a long process sometimes.
Even when we figure out what we love to do, there are steps we need to take and obstacles we need to overcome to get there. In the meantime maybe you’ll work some part-time jobs that you don’t really like - but during that time you still need to take time to do other things you love.
Reaching for a goal is great - but you also need to take care of yourself along the way.
Sometimes it might feel hard to justify taking a night to relax and do something you really love instead of working an eight hour shift and making some money.
And sometimes when we do decide to take that time sometimes we feel guilty about making that choice. But you shouldn’t.
The most valuable choice you can make is to take care of yourself and that includes taking a moment to do what you love. But remember what we said earlier reaching for a goal is great - but you also need to take care of yourself along the way.
Something I’ve come to learn is that no matter our background, our experiences or who we are - everyone has their own responsibilities. Some are easier than others and some can be really really difficult.
We can’t all begin to imagine the lives and responsibilities of others but it is important that we learn how to manage our own (and well). Since everyones responsibilities and lives are different, we all will have our own personal way of taking care of ourselves and handling those things.
So the important thing is to take a look at what you have going on in your life. Where do you have room to take time for yourself and what is an absolute necessity - and then try to figure out what your best plan of action is.
That could look as simple as sitting down for a twenty minute break to watch your favourite show instead of spending your evening studying for six hours straight. While it feels like it’ll pay off, it may lead you to burn out sooner than you think.
Everything in your life is individual to you so sometimes you might be the only one who know what the best thing is - and how much you can handle.
The other side of that is, you might be blinded to how hard you’re working yourself - or just choosing to look past it. But that’s not a good way to live. You’ll be functioning but you won’t be thriving.
The one constant necessity for you to thrive in your life is your own wellbeing. When you feel well, you function better - you’re happier and you can help others better. And be able to handle your responsibilities better.
Now don’t completely blow off work, or any other responsibility. If something absolutely needs to be done, then do it the best you can. But find opportunities for you and don’t give them up. If you really truly need to take a break - take one.
Taking breaks is okay. Taking time for you is okay.
Do what you love
Just do it. Whatever it is. Doing what you love means taking care of yourself and if we don’t do that then we can't thrive. Whether its a hobby or simply just taking the time to do something that makes you feel better - make sure you take the time.
Remember you are the most important thing - not in an egotistical way - seriously you are. And as much as other things are important, sometimes they can wait for you to relax for a moment.